i am the lucky one - you are a much better person than i am. i agree we have chosen what we have chosen, but nothing is forever. if the heart falls in love, and other conditions can be fulfilled (because when you have children then the love IS conditional) then new paths can be trodden. i am not trying to say anything with that regarding you - i am just saying that just because we have chosen this path does not mean that there are no other paths for us to choose.