I listened hard and long, to understand and apply what this meant. Some was very good. My immediate predecessor had died a month before I arrived. He had come there to finish his ministry and retire. Sadly, he became very sick, and his last several years were difficult for him and the church. But the congregation loved him and learned to care for a dying pastor. One day as I listened to a man talk about it, it dawned on me that if they loved him they would probably love me too. And they did.