My personal opinion is that there i

My personal opinion is that there is a built-in mechanism(机制) for teenagers to start to be annoyed by their parents at around the age of 12 when they become “cool”. The parents’ reaction is then negative because they are now hated instead of being admired. Most parents can’t deal with this situation and it drives them crazy. Half of parents get tired and give up all the rules, while the other half become so strict that the kids begin to hate them.
 If parents want to help their teenager get through it they need to understand what is going on, which nearly all parents DON’T . This ensures that both parties will fail each other and generally cause annoyance, stress and ill will!
 On the other hand, the teenager needs to understand the insecurity(不安) the parent feels as the teenager increasingly has a mind of his or her own. Sure, the kid has never done anything wrong and when the parents make improper rules or start calling that teenager certain qualities that he or she has never had, the teenager’s natural reaction is to fight back. Luckily for parents, teenagers’ first reaction is rarely to hurt their parents deeply. However, they will do other things, such as drinking, taking drugs, and having poor performance in school as revenge (报复) for the words and actions of their parents. What neither side understands is that they are hurting themselves and each other and the only cause is lacking the ability to consider things calmly for both sides. Therefore, keeping calm is the first step.

結果 (中文) 3:

我个人的看法是，有一个内置的机制（机制）青少年开始被他们的父母在12岁时成为“酷”。父母的反应是负面的因为他们现在讨厌而不是欣赏。大多数父母不能处理这种情况，把他们逼疯了。一半的父母累了，放弃了所有的规则，而另一半成为那么严格，孩子们开始恨他们。
 如果父母想帮助他们的孩子通过它得到他们需要明白是怎么回事，几乎所有的父母不。这将确保双方不能彼此一般引起烦恼，压力和敌意！
 另一方面，青少年需要了解的不安全感（不安）家长觉得青少年越来越有自己的想法。当然，孩子没有做错什么，当父母做出不当的规则或开始叫那个少年的某些特质，他或她从未有过，少年的自然反应就是反击。幸运的是，父母，青少年的第一反应几乎是深深地伤害了他们的父母。然而，他们会做其他的事情，如饮酒，服用药物，并在学校表现差的复仇（报复）的话，父母的行为。什么都不懂，他们伤害自己和对方，唯一的原因是缺乏冷静的思考双方的能力。因此，保持冷静是第一步。