The giver sits comfortably between the woman's legs with his legs crossed.
Prior to any physical contact, both partners perform Tantric breathing exercises to achieve total relaxation of the mind and body. There are several possible methods, but the gist of all of them is to breath deeply, slowly and in unison with each other. This deep breathing should continue throughout the entire massage.
The massage begins with other parts of the woman's body to encourage her to relax. The man gently but firmly massages her legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the vagina.