only after losing it didn't know each other for their own value of existence or not.
For example, chasing girls encounter bottleneck, or after you have no means, you can first stop, this time you tried to restrain myself not to disturb her. Remember, I can not say yo one or two years, I see her well will forget you might have, and then you try to get close to her, her reaction is observed, if she to you very distant